Getting Married in Ireland

…Outside of the church

IIn my series telling you how to get married in Ireland we have covered the legalities, getting married in  the Catholic church and now I’m going to talk about wedding ceremonies outside of the church.

If you want to get married in Ireland but neither of you is particularly religious or associated with any church. That’s ok. You have a few options.

Firstly though you do still need to complete all of the requirements for a civil marriage and meet with the registrar a minimum of 5 days before your wedding date. So if you are abroad, you need to schedule that time into your itinerary or you can come over at any point before. Make a nice few days out of it!

getting married in ireland a registry office

Registry office – The simple option. You and your Fi make the appointments and get married there at a specified room in the Registry office {like a ‘city hall’ type of thing for our American friends out there}. It is very straight forward and surprisingly quick {and hopefully painless}. You can insert poems, verses or quotes as well as music into your ceremony but they cannot be of a religious nature. This will personalize the ceremony for you and add a bit more romance and ‘wedding’ feel. Certainly you can both wear what you like.

Each Registry office in each county is a bit different and will have maximum occupancies but no minimum. Just the 2 of you and 2 witnesses is fine. Check with each specific office with regards to any decoration but to be honest, you won’t be in there very long so weigh out if it is really worth the effort.

Getting Married in Ireland a hotel reception for a civil ceremony

Civil wedding at an approved venue – The same requirements for civil marriage but the registrar comes to you. Your venue must be approved, which is pretty easily done, so there are requirements for the venue. The main ones that people ask about is that it has to be a building with public access, so not your home, and must be a fixed structure, so no marquees and no outdoors. Also no buildings that have been used  as churches or have religious history.  However most Hotels, museums, guesthouses and castles will have the requirements covered already so are great options.

For weddings outdoors, that is possible now but it still must be approved and an indoor option must be available, set up and ready to do in case of rain so that could mean double the set up, cost and decor.

You can go as formal as you like with a processional and recessional walk down the aisle, music and readings again cannot be of a religious nature.  Decorate as much as your venue will allow.

The number of guests are, again, as much as your venue will allow but there must be seating for everyone and what you wear are up to you.

This is a really good option for a lot of people but book as far ahead as possible because Friday’s fill quickly and the registrar does fewer of these per day. – Also there will be an additional charge for them to come to you.

In my opinion more personal options are here below:

The Humanist option. Humanists ceremonies are very popular because they will perform weddings any day of the week. They are secular solemnizers and will have many of the same requirements of the Civil ceremonies but  will work with you for a more creative ceremony and it won’t feel so sterile {in my humble opinion} as a civil ceremony.

They are busy though so with the Humanists you will need to plan ahead!!

Then there are also non denominational religious groups that can legally marry you according to their beliefs in a location other than a church and you can still have a religious element and feel to your wedding. These types of weddings are more flexible and they will work with you to create a ceremony that suits your style, belief and is meaningful. There are fewer restrictions to ceremony location with the non denominational solemnizers because they are allowed to marry people according to their beliefs as long as it is still appropriate.

Is that enough to get you thinking for now? I’ll cover blessings next!!

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